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Jimmy Rig

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Thank you sir; they certainly are but most things worthwhile in life involve challenge.
Gratitude is very important. Working on this constantly.
This whole episode is teaching me to appreciate my wife and children more.
 

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Sounds good. Off-grid is not off-line. I would not confuse the two. You can waste time online, and you can waste time off-line, depends on what you do.

Scrolling TikTok is a waste for example.

You do not want to make your kids computer/tech stupid. The future is technology. Those with computer skills will have an easier life. Add to that skills like ”off grid living” and they’ll be set.
 

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Lol dude, my daughter just turned 5.. she doesen't get to touch the phones much(but still, the swiping is so intuitive that a toddler picks it up FAST) but is intuitively very savy with the PC.
At 5; I was not even close to the tech familiarity she has.. she is not freely using the pc on the web or whatever but has learnt on her own how to navigate and control the pc off-line to some degree. If the older generation could learn; my children have no worries in this department.

They will know how to use "old tech" quite well; anything with a gasoline engine(chainsaws, off road vehicles etc.). Electronics, building, hunting, fishing, foraging, communicating with nature and god, fire use, starting etc.

It is amazing the ability of their minds to sponge it all up.
I am careful not to paint their reality with my own views too much though they need to be capable of making their own observations, assessments and actions and be their own individuals. I don't want them to blindly follow the crowd or me either. Though there parents do have their best interests in mind as imperfect as we are.
 

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My feeling is that the more we Evolve the more we move away from serving the self.
Having children is a great step in life to learning this important step in our Evolution.
Yes it is a humbling experience and one that opens shared experience between most of adult humanity. Also very personal for the children and parents and incredibly nuanced. i.e. all children have much experience in common; each has their own experience, incredibly varied.

When you have children, a wife or husband.. a family, you can find yourself living your life for them which is a gift to have those in your life that you can pour love into and give them a solid foundation to stand upon that they may have a role to play in the future. Growing up my parents did well to make me feel loved and to have faith in me that I was going to work out they wanted to give me a shot to grow into who I was meant to be and did their best to guide me along the way. Looking back, my parents weren't perfect, and I grew up relatively alright and have made my fair share of mistakes so far in this life like mostly everyone else. Human we are; and we walk on, loving our offspring, doing what we can right, and dusting off our knees and getting back up when we make a blunder.

The selfless aspect of being a parent has been difficult at times and I would be lying to state otherwise. At the end of the day, I chose to get married, have children and these decisions are ones that shape my life as well as creating opportunity for two more lives to enter the world and also changed the life of my wife as well. Essentially its a package deal and the effects are not just you anymore. Not that they ever were, our actions always had effects on others but it never was so crystal clear until we have the experience (perhaps many times?) of having a family.

The importance of your role to that growing child in the way their life may potentially unfold and the myriads of lives connected with yours. Being a parent can bring all of this to the forefront.

I am still selfish to a degree. I have had the best moments as a father and some of the hardest. I wouldn't go back and change anything.

Maybe I can manage to get through the remaining life lessons with some grace, and that in the end when my children think of me they see me as I was; not perfect but loving them. The same thing for my wife. None of this would be possible without her and its not always perfect but there is a lot of road left to travel god willing we keep at it for the right reasons.

With love; and forgiveness we can shatter all distance.

All stood around the woman caught in adultery; standing in a haughty ring; for she had done wrong in the law and had to be punished by means of stones.

The man in his divinely granted wisdom, cut to their hearts as he called forth to them "any among you who are without sin cast the first stone" Nobody was able to cast a stone at the woman as their conscience convicted them, one by one they left until the crowd was gone.

Once the crowd had left he said to her, "your accusers are gone, and as they no longer accuse you neither do I, go and sin no more, you are forgiven." He then spake "I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life."
 

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It is amazing the ability of their minds to sponge it all up.

I am giving them access to high tech as much as possible. The best skill one can have in the future is coding and hacking. People with those skills are top tier. In addition to that stuff like make a fire and such are also essential. As well as language. I try to teach them English when they are young because that is one less lesson in school they have to concentrate on.
 

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I love the seasons... winter especially makes me feel more like a man when I'm chopping wood and making fires!
 

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That's very beautiful. I see it often. Emptiness, frost and cleanliness. Thanks.