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. Relationship with an Alchemist... No thanks?!

Andro

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Flamel, Casanova and Paracelsus were discussing whether it was better to spend time with the wife or with a mistress.

Flamel said he enjoyed time with his wife, building a solid foundation for an enduring relationship.

Casanova said he enjoyed time with his mistress, because of the passion and mystery he found there.

Paracelsus said, "I would like both."

"Both?"

Paracelsus: "Yeah. If you have a wife and a mistress, they will each assume you are spending time with the other woman, and you can go to the lab and get some work done."
 

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Intimate relationships

Spin-off from: http://forum.alchemyforums.com/showthread.php?3812-Manly-P.-Hall

Yes, it seems that married life didn't suit him very well... That's why I'm thankful for people like Rudolf Steiner and Jung; whenever I see an enlightened thinker that had a family I give a little cheer on the inside.

I think that's the measure of a great man, the quality of his intimate relationships. It's a reflection. To paraphrase mythologist Joseph Campbell's 'journey of a hero', to actually bring back the wisdom from the underworld, "special world", from the inner trials and tribulations into the ordinary world, . . . is the full circle, cycle, the real journey of a hero!
 
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Relationship with an alchemist? It depends on the alchemist for me. If anything I would be more interested in an alchemist or anyone more into the occult type things. Simply because we would have more in common and I wouldn't have to struggle trying to explain concepts to them. Plus we could learn from each other, overall it could be great.

Relationships themselves are really tough. Trying to find someone who wants all the things I want and isn't lying to me or themselves about wanting the same things. Of course people change, I guess I would like someone who really knows who they are. I sometimes almost wish I were into casual relations and that's all I cared about in the area of desire. It would make things so much more simple. But unfortunately as much as I want to be it's just not enough for me, I can't help what I really want. I want to share love, not entirely as two humans but as two lights who have found each other who can bond together and stay that way.
 

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Why would you want to be with someone that is not interested improving the self?

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My personal input for this thread is that I actually am in a relationship with an Alchemist.

Considering the alternatives, I don't think I could have had it any other way.

Either that, or non-partnered at all.

However, to each their own.
 

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Relationship with an Alchemist...

We have not fraternized with enough alchemists to be able define this stereotype. Is anyone here able or brave enough to do so? Then perhaps we could more specifically answer the question.

Now it is not fair to judge anyone based on a stereotype. People can be grouped and stereotypes do exist, but until you have deeper knowledge of the individual, ignorant assumptions are well, ignorant. We are all variations of the same.

There are open minded Alchemists and stubborn ones, polite ones and rude ones, humble ones and arrogant ones, honest ones and delusional ones, self-improving ones and self-worshiping ones. It all depends on what you traits your prefer and are compatible with you.

We would say that in our personal experience, to journey with one who shares your passion is a wonderful thing. To learn and share as a team is gratifying to us. We also see how it could potentially be a disaster. It comes down to the character of the individuals involved.
 

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Why would you want to be with someone that is not interested improving the self?

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I'm starting to think this was directed at me. At any rate I didn't intend to say or imply anything like that. It's why I said "not entirely as two humans". Improving the self or one's person is a good thing and considerate of one's partner. After all we are all part animal and have certain desires which revolve around that. But we're also more than animals and some of us feel the need for deeper connection. In a good relationship there should be room for both.

Another way of explaining this would be that I wish for more than romantic love from my partner. I would like to be friends first, then lovers, then family. After all there are many types of love and the more the better.
 

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Not really, it was directed at the thread as a whole. ;)

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I wonder if it has anything to do with girls and women being more influenced by beauty, happiness and joy than men. When the 'black phase' or 'dark night of the soul' is necessary for development, how does joy and happiness respond to that?

I know from experience that women become uncomfortable around men who display any sort of weakness. And a few that even take advantage of it. Not the ideal candidate for reproduction anyways :p
 

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The majority of my alchemist friends are married. For two of them, their wifes are also alchemists.
And I have personnaly found my pearl.
So...
I'm embarrassed to admit that I have at times taken my pearl for granted. Alchemist or not a good partner that accepts and loves you is hard to find.. like a pearl. Cherish this gift if you find it.
 

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Agreed. My wife is a witch of sorts. I recommend that more than an alchemist as a partner.
 

Jimmy Rig

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That sounds interesting; lucky us! Mines not a witch as far as I know.. :unsure:
Everyone has their talents!